Are you in an abusive relationship?  What are the signs?

Signs of an Abusive Relationship

There are many signs of an abusive relationship.  The most revealing sign is fear of your partner.  If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner - constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up - chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive.  Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below.  The more “yes” answers you have, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.


Your Inner Thoughts & Feelings

Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior

Do you:

Does your partner:

Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?

Humiliate or yell at you?

Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?

Criticize you and put you down?

Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?

Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?

Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?

Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?

Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?

Blame you for their own abusive behavior?

Feel emotionally numb or helpless?

See you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats

Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior

Does your partner:

Does your partner:

Have a bad and unpredictable temper?

Act excessively jealous and possessive?

Hurt you or threaten to hurt or kill you?

Control where you go or what you do?

Threaten to take your children away or harm them?

Keep you from seeing your friends or family?

Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

Force you to have sex?

Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

Destroy your belongings?

Constantly check up on you?

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call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).